Time to get back to CLASS!

It has been a long Summer. I unexpectedly took some time off after falling head over heals for one of the most Dominate men I have ever met. Our introduction was followed by a very unfortunate car accident. I am fine now, and so is my car...I think.

Now it is time to get back into the swing of things. I will be starting a new Kink 101 school, I call "Why BDSM?" I will cover such topics as foreplay, the 5 senses, fantasies, desires, endorphins, emotional release and rituals. The classes take place in Boulder CO. I will put part of the lessons here on this blog, but it will not measure up to being in a room with other curious students. If you desire for me to bring my lessons to your location, send me a private message and I will see what we can work out.

It is so good to be back from my unplanned but much needed vacation. I look forward to catching up with all of my students.

Dan Savage on the Existence of Bisexuality

He has a point. For a lot of people Bisexuality is a phase...then you get in a primary relationship that makes you more one then the other. You start to identify with a social group that may or may not be defined by sexuality. I once heard a man talk about mature monogamy. Someone who knows I am Polyamours asked me what I thought of the talk. I said, I am not against monogamy, and am just not ready to be mature yet. I think my view on bisexuality is just about the same...I am not ready to pick which side of the fence I want to settle on yet. I like playing with both genders. From a kinky coach point of view it makes since. I have experience with both men and women and that is how I like it. Enjoy the video...I did.

This is the artist of the day...Ryan Shultz.

I know how she feels. Saturday night I went to a Manea party. These things are increadable. I had more then one amazing thing happen to me in just one night. The next one is on Oct 30th. I can't wait...and I hope I recover from this one by then.

This Dancer is over dressed for Monday! She must have just woken up from her weekend too.

Perfectionism!

I used to be paralyzed by perfectionism. Not a very Dominate thing to say.

I thought, how can I possibly dominate a person until I have all the skills I need. On the other hand, how am I going to get the skills I need, if I do not have any one to practice with.

Then along the way I realized some very important thing.

1.) Be honest.

2.) Do not be afraid to try.

3.) You do not have to be perfect.

We are all human after all. If a submissive wants a Dominate that knows everything and never messes up, forget it. A power exchange has more to do with trust. Be trust worthy by communicating and then you can get threw those imperfect moments together.

Starting Summer Proud!

This weekend went well.

I did not feel good Friday so... I the host, missed the Boulder munch and stayed home.

On Saturday I headed over to the summer solstice party at my friends house. It was a lovely polyamory evening of cuddles and potluck food. Every one was dressed so nice. The color theme for the night way Black, White and Red. We looked like we planned it. I am practicing meeting people where they are at. It seems to be working for me.

Sunday I went to the civic park in Denver for Denver Pride. I really wanted to see the free En Vogue concert, but about 4,000 people beat me to the seats. I pouted for a little while, ate a much needed sack lunch and then moved on. I like the out door dance area. It is always fun. I managed to find a couple of boys willing to dance with a girl at pride. Makes a Bi chick happy.

The FIND of the day was the Smitten Kitten sex toy stand. They have just recently opened up a new store location in Denver. Their leather floggers were small enough to swing in a crowed dungeon, and came in many different creative styles. All of their toys are certified non toxic. Woot! Got to love that.

Ugh Monday....just means 5 more days till the Manea Arabian Nights party.

Happy first day of Summer to you all.

Annabel

Summer time.

Light fluffy pink skirt.

Ice cold water.

Kids playing out side my window late at night.

A long novel to read.

Hugs.

Food, Feet and Flogger Fetishes.

I some times over use the word Fetish. Imagine that! :-0 It was recently brought to me attention that I might not actually know what that word means...so I looked it up.

Fetish -noun (Dictionary.com)

1. an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.

2. any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.

3. Psychology . any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

I think most people who do not use the word very often tend to put it merely in the category of definition three of being an "erotic response". I put fetish more in the category of definition one or two. I like idolatry, and I like having things in my life that I can indulge in. Even over indulge in.

Food...Is the most wonderful thing. We need it and yet if we do not choose the food we eat wisely it can harm us. Rather then being a glutton, I choose to focus on the perfect combination of the finest foods. I can spend hours baking a whole wheat, vegan, cinnamon blueberry coffee cake. Or throwing together a salad in seconds. Fixating on the quality of the food I eat helps me keep my lady like size.

Feet...This one was handed down to me from my grandmother. When I was a girl she started teaching me how to give foot massages. She did not both teaching me the reflexology map. Instead, she taught me how to be intuitive about what the receiver needs. I love giving and receiving foot massages. I am picky, but you can be trained.

Floggers...This is a new one for me. Master Roberts just recently gave me a flogger lesson and now I think I am addicted. I have been having dreams about floggers and whips. I recently watched a man use a whole verity of whips on a women and though that I have not yet met a women master of whips. I might have found my calling. Only time will tell.

Dungeon vs Tantra

I had a fabulous weekend. On Friday night I went to Gateway, the newbie night, at The Sanctuary the last public dungeon in Denver. I got to flog one person and drip candle wax on another. I was in my Dom space for sure. Then on Saturday night I went to a tantra class. What a different experience. I went from being completely Dominate one night to playing with my feminine energy the next. They are both a part of who I am, but to have spent time focused on one and then the other like that was interesting.

Then Sunday morning I went out to breakfast. I got to talking to people about my business. I got embarrassed enough about my shabby marketing tools to come home and do something about it. I revised this blog page and have decided that this will make a nice home base for my business. Then I designed and ordered some new business cards. I went for the rush delivery because I can not imagine going out next weekend without my new and improved cards...that will hopefully start pointing people to this blog.

There are other fish in the sea.

I just made it through a really intense month. It seems as though there are some people in my local Polyamourous community that think it is OK for them to sleep with whom ever, when ever, and never get STD tested. And then they throw a fit when one of their partners gets shunned for being with them. They throw a temper tantrum and say that other people can not tell them what to do. Then they call people who are unwilling to sleep with them..."a tease who does not put out." Well call me a tease any day you want. You are basically clearing my name for me. You are letting everyone know that I did not sleep with you. That I have standards. I can only hope that I inspire others to be as cautious.

In my poly family the rule is...every one gets tested, once every year, or once every fourth new partner. Play safe, stay clean, and live to play another day.

Flabbergasted!

It has been a while since I have written. That is because I am getting busier now, and going through some adjustments in my private life as well.

I wanted to talk about something that came up a couple of weeks ago. A friend of mine mentioned that he was trying to take kinky photos of himself. So he tied himself up and then hit the timer of the camera before hopping himself into place.

My immediate reaction was to be completely flabbergasted. Most, if not all of the accidental BDSM deaths you hear about in the media are caused by people doing self bondage or some one leaving some one else bound and unattended. This is just dumb practice. So unless you really want the gory details of your private life to make the front page news. In a way that would make even your dead grandma role over in her grave....Never ever do bondage alone. If you really have the need to do self bondage, get a friend you trust to sit quietly in the corner if you must. But please, do not add to the bad media of the community.

To toy or not to toy.

When it comes to D/s in the bedroom, some times a good old fashion role in the hay is great. I love to wrestle in bed. Good old Domination of ones body weight holding down the other and a real test of weather the submissive can get a way or not.

On the other hand, some days it is time to empty out the toy box and turn the submissive into a Christmas tree of sorts. Some chains, cuffs, vibrators, cloths pins etc.

Meeting the Master.

The interview on Saturday went well. The new Master and I are going to begin to work together next week. If all goes well, there is an opportunity to perform and travel as well as demonstrate and teach. I do not think there is a lot of money in this job, but it will be fun and provide a lot of exposure that could lead to other things.

My vacation time this weekend was spent quit well. I feel rejuvenated. I can only hope that my partner feels the same.

Today was a catch up day, on the phone calls. Tonight I have to get prepared to meet with my team tomorrow. I know I am being cryptic and unkinky in this post. When I have dates and times of performances or new photos, then I can show people what I am up to. Until then, let the suspense be your torture. (That is a hint!)

Time for a break.

Yesterday was a day of emotional out burst. By mid day I looked at my Horoscope and it said, You can tell them to shut up....nicely. ;-)

I saw the touched up photos today. They look nice. The interaction between the sub and I in the photos is my favorite part. When the DVD gets here I can start building my web site.

I am going to go away for play this weekend. And I have an interview with a Master I want to apprentice with.

The shoot.

It was really fun to listen to the two men at the photo shoot today, discuss which shoes looked better on me. I think we spent about three hours working together today. Round one was photos in all three out fits and a quick glance at all of them. Then we felt like two scenes were missing. So a few more photos. Then lunch in front of the computer so that we could narrow down from two hundred something. In the end we picked our top seventeen pics. The photographer is going to crop them and touch them up a bit. He has promised to send them to me within 48 hours.

The next test will be weather or not my printer can print a decent head shot photo, for auditions.

It was really great to have two friends help me out in this way. I think we can all benefit from the photos taken today.

Shopping for the shoot.

I have a photo shoot lined up for tomorrow. I am so exited. I went to Home Depot to get new white rope. I have two friends helping me out. One is doing the photos and one is going to be in some of the photos with me. I have two different black outfits, and my tiger dress. Oh and I fund some really cool pink gloves at the hard wear store today too...they are sexy...trust me.

No corsets though. I remember the first time I went to the dungeon I was struck by the fact that the Dommes and the submissives both wear corsets. You would never catch a Dom in a corset....OK maybe a self confident one, as a fun prank....but my point being, I see something wrong with a system that still insisted that all woman be less comfortable then men. Forget that! I can be sexing and not have a bonny ass corset poking me all at the same time.

Can you cause pain?

I was speaking with a man that had just watched his first live BDSM demonstration. He said that the women was tied up and the man was hitting her. He said that he was amazed because the women appeared to be in total bliss. He said that he is intrigued and curious, but he does not know if he can cause a women pain.

So I asked him, if you met a women that you wanted to turn on and she says, make it hurt, do you think you can set aside your fears of hurting another person in order to meet your goal of turning her on? Then I asked him to take a hold of my breast and squeeze it. As he did this, I encouraged him to squeeze it even harder and pull. I was completely turn on, and I think he got the point.