He has a point. For a lot of people Bisexuality is a phase...then you get in a primary relationship that makes you more one then the other. You start to identify with a social group that may or may not be defined by sexuality. I once heard a man talk about mature monogamy. Someone who knows I am Polyamours asked me what I thought of the talk. I said, I am not against monogamy, and am just not ready to be mature yet. I think my view on bisexuality is just about the same...I am not ready to pick which side of the fence I want to settle on yet. I like playing with both genders. From a kinky coach point of view it makes since. I have experience with both men and women and that is how I like it. Enjoy the video...I did.
Monday, June 28, 2010
This is the artist of the day...Ryan Shultz.I know how she feels. Saturday night I went to a Manea party. These things are increadable. I had more then one amazing thing happen to me in just one night. The next one is on Oct 30th. I can't wait...and I hope I recover from this one by then.
This Dancer is over dressed for Monday! She must have just woken up from her weekend too.
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Perfectionism!
I used to be paralyzed by perfectionism. Not a very Dominate thing to say.
I thought, how can I possibly dominate a person until I have all the skills I need. On the other hand, how am I going to get the skills I need, if I do not have any one to practice with.
Then along the way I realized some very important thing.
1.) Be honest.
2.) Do not be afraid to try.
3.) You do not have to be perfect.
We are all human after all. If a submissive wants a Dominate that knows everything and never messes up, forget it. A power exchange has more to do with trust. Be trust worthy by communicating and then you can get threw those imperfect moments together.
I thought, how can I possibly dominate a person until I have all the skills I need. On the other hand, how am I going to get the skills I need, if I do not have any one to practice with.
Then along the way I realized some very important thing.
1.) Be honest.
2.) Do not be afraid to try.
3.) You do not have to be perfect.
We are all human after all. If a submissive wants a Dominate that knows everything and never messes up, forget it. A power exchange has more to do with trust. Be trust worthy by communicating and then you can get threw those imperfect moments together.
Monday, June 21, 2010
Starting Summer Proud!
This weekend went well.
I did not feel good Friday so... I the host, missed the Boulder munch and stayed home.
On Saturday I headed over to the summer solstice party at my friends house. It was a lovely polyamory evening of cuddles and potluck food. Every one was dressed so nice. The color theme for the night way Black, White and Red. We looked like we planned it. I am practicing meeting people where they are at. It seems to be working for me.
Sunday I went to the civic park in Denver for Denver Pride. I really wanted to see the free En Vogue concert, but about 4,000 people beat me to the seats. I pouted for a little while, ate a much needed sack lunch and then moved on. I like the out door dance area. It is always fun. I managed to find a couple of boys willing to dance with a girl at pride. Makes a Bi chick happy.
The FIND of the day was the Smitten Kitten sex toy stand. They have just recently opened up a new store location in Denver. Their leather floggers were small enough to swing in a crowed dungeon, and came in many different creative styles. All of their toys are certified non toxic. Woot! Got to love that.
Ugh Monday....just means 5 more days till the Manea Arabian Nights party.
Happy first day of Summer to you all.
Annabel
I did not feel good Friday so... I the host, missed the Boulder munch and stayed home.
On Saturday I headed over to the summer solstice party at my friends house. It was a lovely polyamory evening of cuddles and potluck food. Every one was dressed so nice. The color theme for the night way Black, White and Red. We looked like we planned it. I am practicing meeting people where they are at. It seems to be working for me.
Sunday I went to the civic park in Denver for Denver Pride. I really wanted to see the free En Vogue concert, but about 4,000 people beat me to the seats. I pouted for a little while, ate a much needed sack lunch and then moved on. I like the out door dance area. It is always fun. I managed to find a couple of boys willing to dance with a girl at pride. Makes a Bi chick happy.
The FIND of the day was the Smitten Kitten sex toy stand. They have just recently opened up a new store location in Denver. Their leather floggers were small enough to swing in a crowed dungeon, and came in many different creative styles. All of their toys are certified non toxic. Woot! Got to love that.
Ugh Monday....just means 5 more days till the Manea Arabian Nights party.
Happy first day of Summer to you all.
Annabel
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Summer time.
Light fluffy pink skirt.
Ice cold water.
Kids playing out side my window late at night.
A long novel to read.
Hugs.
Ice cold water.
Kids playing out side my window late at night.
A long novel to read.
Hugs.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Food, Feet and Flogger Fetishes.
I some times over use the word Fetish. Imagine that! :-0 It was recently brought to me attention that I might not actually know what that word means...so I looked it up.
Fetish -noun (Dictionary.com)
I think most people who do not use the word very often tend to put it merely in the category of definition three of being an "erotic response". I put fetish more in the category of definition one or two. I like idolatry, and I like having things in my life that I can indulge in. Even over indulge in.
Food...Is the most wonderful thing. We need it and yet if we do not choose the food we eat wisely it can harm us. Rather then being a glutton, I choose to focus on the perfect combination of the finest foods. I can spend hours baking a whole wheat, vegan, cinnamon blueberry coffee cake. Or throwing together a salad in seconds. Fixating on the quality of the food I eat helps me keep my lady like size.
Feet...This one was handed down to me from my grandmother. When I was a girl she started teaching me how to give foot massages. She did not both teaching me the reflexology map. Instead, she taught me how to be intuitive about what the receiver needs. I love giving and receiving foot massages. I am picky, but you can be trained.
Floggers...This is a new one for me. Master Roberts just recently gave me a flogger lesson and now I think I am addicted. I have been having dreams about floggers and whips. I recently watched a man use a whole verity of whips on a women and though that I have not yet met a women master of whips. I might have found my calling. Only time will tell.
Fetish -noun (Dictionary.com)
1. an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.
2. any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.
3. Psychology . any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.
I think most people who do not use the word very often tend to put it merely in the category of definition three of being an "erotic response". I put fetish more in the category of definition one or two. I like idolatry, and I like having things in my life that I can indulge in. Even over indulge in.
Food...Is the most wonderful thing. We need it and yet if we do not choose the food we eat wisely it can harm us. Rather then being a glutton, I choose to focus on the perfect combination of the finest foods. I can spend hours baking a whole wheat, vegan, cinnamon blueberry coffee cake. Or throwing together a salad in seconds. Fixating on the quality of the food I eat helps me keep my lady like size.
Feet...This one was handed down to me from my grandmother. When I was a girl she started teaching me how to give foot massages. She did not both teaching me the reflexology map. Instead, she taught me how to be intuitive about what the receiver needs. I love giving and receiving foot massages. I am picky, but you can be trained.
Floggers...This is a new one for me. Master Roberts just recently gave me a flogger lesson and now I think I am addicted. I have been having dreams about floggers and whips. I recently watched a man use a whole verity of whips on a women and though that I have not yet met a women master of whips. I might have found my calling. Only time will tell.
Monday, June 14, 2010
Dungeon vs Tantra
I had a fabulous weekend. On Friday night I went to Gateway, the newbie night, at The Sanctuary the last public dungeon in Denver. I got to flog one person and drip candle wax on another. I was in my Dom space for sure. Then on Saturday night I went to a tantra class. What a different experience. I went from being completely Dominate one night to playing with my feminine energy the next. They are both a part of who I am, but to have spent time focused on one and then the other like that was interesting.
Then Sunday morning I went out to breakfast. I got to talking to people about my business. I got embarrassed enough about my shabby marketing tools to come home and do something about it. I revised this blog page and have decided that this will make a nice home base for my business. Then I designed and ordered some new business cards. I went for the rush delivery because I can not imagine going out next weekend without my new and improved cards...that will hopefully start pointing people to this blog.
Then Sunday morning I went out to breakfast. I got to talking to people about my business. I got embarrassed enough about my shabby marketing tools to come home and do something about it. I revised this blog page and have decided that this will make a nice home base for my business. Then I designed and ordered some new business cards. I went for the rush delivery because I can not imagine going out next weekend without my new and improved cards...that will hopefully start pointing people to this blog.
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