Loving life right now.

I am kind of liking my life right now. I basically belong to two poly/BDSM houses/community groups...I do not know that they are called. Two groups of people (...there that works). Over at Denver Bound I am making lots of fiends, learning rope and generally getting to be my silly playful self. And then at Sir Basil's house I have a best friend...though going through some major rough times with his health has been my solid rock this year. So over at his house I have a couple of rope bottoms who stop by and willingly let me practice my rope tying skills on them. Gawd...I can not get enough rope.

In my private life (for me my private life is the vanilla side of things) I have just started a new job with a great company...and right in the nick of time. I enjoy my job and I feel I have a future here.

So it is Friday night and I am home alone...and that is OK some times. I have spent the evening posting my munch on Fetlife and looking forward to meeting new people and seeing old friends next weekend.

Loving Life,

Annabel

Hello all. I have done some serious cleaning house this year. I think I went through a period of trying to please everybody and not having the confidence to know what I really want. But things are finally turning around for me. What do I really want? I want to be the best damn rope switch I can be. I feel that I am already what I would call an advanced rope bottom, as are a number of my friends. And now I am learning the top side. I am feeling confident today because I had a very good practice session last night. Woot!

I have learned many things in my dating life recently to. Number 1: My love language is communication. If people do not communicate with me...we do not have a relationship. Right? I have also seen the difference between Polyamory and Pan-amory. OK I made that word up...but the point being....Just because I am open to loving more then one does not mean I have to love everyone. Get my drift? The hard part is getting that point across to others. ;-)

In my private life (which in my case mean the vanilla side. lol) I finally have a permanent job...and in the nick of time to. I came with in $1 of loosing my apartment last month. I think I am going to like this job and it is going to work out well with my family life. Making coffee baby! What is not to like?

Time to get back to CLASS!

It has been a long Summer. I unexpectedly took some time off after falling head over heals for one of the most Dominate men I have ever met. Our introduction was followed by a very unfortunate car accident. I am fine now, and so is my car...I think.

Now it is time to get back into the swing of things. I will be starting a new Kink 101 school, I call "Why BDSM?" I will cover such topics as foreplay, the 5 senses, fantasies, desires, endorphins, emotional release and rituals. The classes take place in Boulder CO. I will put part of the lessons here on this blog, but it will not measure up to being in a room with other curious students. If you desire for me to bring my lessons to your location, send me a private message and I will see what we can work out.

It is so good to be back from my unplanned but much needed vacation. I look forward to catching up with all of my students.

Dan Savage on the Existence of Bisexuality

He has a point. For a lot of people Bisexuality is a phase...then you get in a primary relationship that makes you more one then the other. You start to identify with a social group that may or may not be defined by sexuality. I once heard a man talk about mature monogamy. Someone who knows I am Polyamours asked me what I thought of the talk. I said, I am not against monogamy, and am just not ready to be mature yet. I think my view on bisexuality is just about the same...I am not ready to pick which side of the fence I want to settle on yet. I like playing with both genders. From a kinky coach point of view it makes since. I have experience with both men and women and that is how I like it. Enjoy the video...I did.

This is the artist of the day...Ryan Shultz.

I know how she feels. Saturday night I went to a Manea party. These things are increadable. I had more then one amazing thing happen to me in just one night. The next one is on Oct 30th. I can't wait...and I hope I recover from this one by then.

This Dancer is over dressed for Monday! She must have just woken up from her weekend too.

Perfectionism!

I used to be paralyzed by perfectionism. Not a very Dominate thing to say.

I thought, how can I possibly dominate a person until I have all the skills I need. On the other hand, how am I going to get the skills I need, if I do not have any one to practice with.

Then along the way I realized some very important thing.

1.) Be honest.

2.) Do not be afraid to try.

3.) You do not have to be perfect.

We are all human after all. If a submissive wants a Dominate that knows everything and never messes up, forget it. A power exchange has more to do with trust. Be trust worthy by communicating and then you can get threw those imperfect moments together.

Starting Summer Proud!

This weekend went well.

I did not feel good Friday so... I the host, missed the Boulder munch and stayed home.

On Saturday I headed over to the summer solstice party at my friends house. It was a lovely polyamory evening of cuddles and potluck food. Every one was dressed so nice. The color theme for the night way Black, White and Red. We looked like we planned it. I am practicing meeting people where they are at. It seems to be working for me.

Sunday I went to the civic park in Denver for Denver Pride. I really wanted to see the free En Vogue concert, but about 4,000 people beat me to the seats. I pouted for a little while, ate a much needed sack lunch and then moved on. I like the out door dance area. It is always fun. I managed to find a couple of boys willing to dance with a girl at pride. Makes a Bi chick happy.

The FIND of the day was the Smitten Kitten sex toy stand. They have just recently opened up a new store location in Denver. Their leather floggers were small enough to swing in a crowed dungeon, and came in many different creative styles. All of their toys are certified non toxic. Woot! Got to love that.

Ugh Monday....just means 5 more days till the Manea Arabian Nights party.

Happy first day of Summer to you all.

Annabel